Are You Your Own Biggest Saboteur?

In years past, it was often thought that working with the ability to partner as a strategic necessity was a ”soft skill”, something that could be pursued if time allowed. Now it is clear that increasing communication and connection is a necessary skill for leadership and for accomplishment.  This can change perceptions and can bring about innovative solutions that are not possible without engaging others.

I thought I’d share a recent story about a business leader I know who found his role and his responsibilities so changed that he was not sure how he was going to function in his workplace. He was a strong leader, had led teams, but had difficulty engaging others as his skills in communication were not developed. His shyness was seen as arrogance, and his brilliance often went unrecognized and untapped.

As we worked together on the science of networking and connection, especially with peer leaders, the change in him began almost immediately. Where once he would not approach others due to a competitive environment, he now looked for natural ways to create connection and opportunities with his colleagues.

For several months he used his time to engage others in projects, and to give assistance and time when it was needed. He deliberately spent time listening to others, and responding to their communication, rather than just giving his.

Now he is seen as a valuable asset, and has been chosen to lead an important project to align the company with what is currently vital in the field, and for development in the future.

In this example, you can see that Strategic Partnership as a Positive Intelligence skill was a very important asset for him to have. If you are struggling with establishing partnerships within your organization, my suggestion is to make a list of the qualities that would be beneficial within a strategic partner and a developed partnership, and that would enhance your strategic plan.

Next, embrace communication and connection as vital skills any leader must have in order to succeed. While it does not come naturally to most of us, these skills are necessary to create the connections, which create the partnerships, leading to greater success. Don’t let your inner saboteur, out of mistrust and the need to protect one’s image, prevent you from honing your communication skills and making these important connections and partnerships.

I’ll write more on these skills in the next few weeks, but in the meantime, a suggested read for looking at your own inner saboteur is Positive Intelligence; author Shirzad Chamine

Do you have a leadership question, challenge, or success you would like to share, please be sure to leave a comment. I would enjoy hearing from you! – Patricia